How to make a stranger feel comfortable helping you

1.  Give a wide smile with nod before start any conversation.

2.  Start off with simple greeting such as hi, hello, or morning with a smiling face.

3.  Don’t go direct to the point of what you need him to help. Turn your words around so that it won’t sound directly you want him to help. Share with him your situation first. Then slowly asking him whether he has any idea or know anything that might be able to help you lighter your situation.

4.  Do not disagree with him on any idea given even though you think it is irrelevant. Just listen to whatever he has to say, agree with him truly (even though u don’t agree) and then ask for alternative ways.

5. That way will make him feel good of himself and you. With that, helping you would be his pleasure. This will make him wants to give out some help to make some different to your difficult situation.

6. See what he can offer, and consider thoroughly whether is safe to take his offer or better off solve it your own with the information he has given.

7. Last but not least, remember to say thank you with smile and slight bow to show your appreciation.

Have a nice try.

A hard life

No matter how hard I try to keep my life at it’s normal pace, it will end up in a miserable situation again and again. Life never seems to be fulfilling. There is always a big empty hole in my life. I can never ever fill up the hole forever in this life.

Being a troublesome child, the one in the family that everyone dislikes and the left out child is really really difficult and painful. It still tear my heart into pieces when I think about family life. Yes there are good times, but there are also real bad times that affect the way I grow up, the way I behave, the way I handle myself when I finally become an adult.

Living in a home for 20 years, where no one in the family can understand me. My parents never put themselves in my shoe and think for me. I’m born with high stubbornness, total emotional person and a dreamer who live life waiting for future to come. Sounds like failure nothing more. These leads my family to always look down at me. Tired overcoming people tearing my confident. My self-confident is also a failure elements in their eyes.

One thing bad about me. When I really want something, I proceed getting it till I get that something I want regardless of wrong or right in doing it. Many did tell me not to do it. I still do it and end up going through a series of suffocating time. If someone stops me, I will take another way round to get what I decided or want. I take the risk, take the responsibility and end up in a terrible living. Believing what I did is right and has it’s fruit in the end.

My parents give me a good support in life. But at times, I hate their poor judgement and understanding. There are times I grow wild and rebellious. Their parental teaching failed in my eyes. Many ways that they can do to make me a better person and to lead a stable life. They failed.

This might sound like blame. But it’s also a strong fact that parents shape their child.

My voices in their ears of how much I want to be successful one day is annoying and pathetically rejected. A hundred of voices of my defendant point of view in life with them. Do I failed at my own view of life?

Can it be everything that I am aiming in life is a wrong? Can it be everything that I have in my mind of who I want to be is a wrong? Can it be my dream is also a wrong? Every time I talk about it, it always seems to be wrong if I am not doing fine in current and there will be no better future at all.

Going Singapore Tomorrow

Yes! I need to get out of here Malacca to kill my boredom. Frustrated for some exciting activity. Hope a day trip to Singapore will help me clear off my life emptiness. I just decide yesterday night.

Meeting my high school friend there. Bus at 7.30am. Will reach Singapore before 12noon. Just go there walk around, or sit down at a nice place and slowly chat with my friend. Hope this can give me some inspiration to do many things in life now.

Will blog my one day trip to Singapore soon.

Moderned

When I was young,my hobby goes: playing dolls, cook with toy set, watch sounds of music and hk drama, cycle everywhere, play hide and seek, play congkak-lompat getah-gasing-batu tujuh, play fake clinics and many more.

Now my hobby: listen to songs, watch American movie with lots of kissing and going naked scene, write blog, online chatting, online mahjong, read online blog, read online news.
We are modern now, everything is within us with mouse and keyboard. No more outgoing hobby. The crime rate is getting serious.

Stay at home, the best way to live.

A degree is just a minor thing in life, yet we spend years studying it.

There are time when I feel a pools of motivation across my body. The same goes of the feeling low motivation in life. It’s hard to control it, when my life’s not going at the right direction.

Often, I thought life is like a river that flow easily as it seems. Sometimes, we feel so easy to lift up life to the way it should be. Then, we face obstacle and stop halfway wondering should we go on or no. Other route might be a better path with less obstacle?

After form five, I simply chose a route for myself which is to form six. That is the only offer my dad could give me. I can’t go to college unless I can get loan. I can’t go to private university out of Penang, unaffordable on living cost.  PTPTN wasn’t widely offered on private colleges.

Life in form six wasn’t easy for me. I gave myself too much of hope and aim. Followed by the stress I am undergoing is not producing any result. I didn’t do well in form six. I was in a great depression that whole year. Feeling so low that I couldn’t strike anything in life. At that time, studying is almost everything in my life.

Friends around keep telling me, without a good result you can still soar your wings and succeed even higher than those who did well in studies if you can perform yourself on a correct path. At that time, I was too pressured with the performance of myself and desperate for something anew.

After form six, I went look on newspaper jobstreet to look for a job. I’ve got 7 months of break before I enter university. Desperately, I need a job. Without a job, having to taste life without anything to do for 7 months can kill me. Sit down in front of my computer, I start filling up the resume form from jobstreet and apply whatever job that probably they will take me in.

When I get phone calls, it means chances for me to perform. I must not fail them to see the potential inside me. It was not easy at all. I had to go to places I never been to around my state for interviews. The most difficult part is that, I have to tell lies in order to be hired. I cheated them that I’m not going to further my studies because my result is too bad for university entry. All I want is a well paid office hour job.

After all the interviews, asking me to wait phone calls I still haven’t get a job. That really pushes me down. Last try, I went to shopping mall walk all the shops and place my name for a job vacancy. The very next day, I get another interview from jobstreet ad and get the job.

That working experience I have, showed me working life without a degree can soar up higher than the people who get a degree. I lost my dream of studying hard since that. Even now, I’m don’t know why I am in university studying Electronics Engineering. All because my parents want me to be a graduate.