How to make a stranger feel comfortable helping you

1.  Give a wide smile with nod before start any conversation.

2.  Start off with simple greeting such as hi, hello, or morning with a smiling face.

3.  Don’t go direct to the point of what you need him to help. Turn your words around so that it won’t sound directly you want him to help. Share with him your situation first. Then slowly asking him whether he has any idea or know anything that might be able to help you lighter your situation.

4.  Do not disagree with him on any idea given even though you think it is irrelevant. Just listen to whatever he has to say, agree with him truly (even though u don’t agree) and then ask for alternative ways.

5. That way will make him feel good of himself and you. With that, helping you would be his pleasure. This will make him wants to give out some help to make some different to your difficult situation.

6. See what he can offer, and consider thoroughly whether is safe to take his offer or better off solve it your own with the information he has given.

7. Last but not least, remember to say thank you with smile and slight bow to show your appreciation.

Have a nice try.

A hard life

No matter how hard I try to keep my life at it’s normal pace, it will end up in a miserable situation again and again. Life never seems to be fulfilling. There is always a big empty hole in my life. I can never ever fill up the hole forever in this life.

Being a troublesome child, the one in the family that everyone dislikes and the left out child is really really difficult and painful. It still tear my heart into pieces when I think about family life. Yes there are good times, but there are also real bad times that affect the way I grow up, the way I behave, the way I handle myself when I finally become an adult.

Living in a home for 20 years, where no one in the family can understand me. My parents never put themselves in my shoe and think for me. I’m born with high stubbornness, total emotional person and a dreamer who live life waiting for future to come. Sounds like failure nothing more. These leads my family to always look down at me. Tired overcoming people tearing my confident. My self-confident is also a failure elements in their eyes.

One thing bad about me. When I really want something, I proceed getting it till I get that something I want regardless of wrong or right in doing it. Many did tell me not to do it. I still do it and end up going through a series of suffocating time. If someone stops me, I will take another way round to get what I decided or want. I take the risk, take the responsibility and end up in a terrible living. Believing what I did is right and has it’s fruit in the end.

My parents give me a good support in life. But at times, I hate their poor judgement and understanding. There are times I grow wild and rebellious. Their parental teaching failed in my eyes. Many ways that they can do to make me a better person and to lead a stable life. They failed.

This might sound like blame. But it’s also a strong fact that parents shape their child.

My voices in their ears of how much I want to be successful one day is annoying and pathetically rejected. A hundred of voices of my defendant point of view in life with them. Do I failed at my own view of life?

Can it be everything that I am aiming in life is a wrong? Can it be everything that I have in my mind of who I want to be is a wrong? Can it be my dream is also a wrong? Every time I talk about it, it always seems to be wrong if I am not doing fine in current and there will be no better future at all.

Going Singapore Tomorrow

Yes! I need to get out of here Malacca to kill my boredom. Frustrated for some exciting activity. Hope a day trip to Singapore will help me clear off my life emptiness. I just decide yesterday night.

Meeting my high school friend there. Bus at 7.30am. Will reach Singapore before 12noon. Just go there walk around, or sit down at a nice place and slowly chat with my friend. Hope this can give me some inspiration to do many things in life now.

Will blog my one day trip to Singapore soon.

Moderned

When I was young,my hobby goes: playing dolls, cook with toy set, watch sounds of music and hk drama, cycle everywhere, play hide and seek, play congkak-lompat getah-gasing-batu tujuh, play fake clinics and many more.

Now my hobby: listen to songs, watch American movie with lots of kissing and going naked scene, write blog, online chatting, online mahjong, read online blog, read online news.
We are modern now, everything is within us with mouse and keyboard. No more outgoing hobby. The crime rate is getting serious.

Stay at home, the best way to live.

A degree is just a minor thing in life, yet we spend years studying it.

There are time when I feel a pools of motivation across my body. The same goes of the feeling low motivation in life. It’s hard to control it, when my life’s not going at the right direction.

Often, I thought life is like a river that flow easily as it seems. Sometimes, we feel so easy to lift up life to the way it should be. Then, we face obstacle and stop halfway wondering should we go on or no. Other route might be a better path with less obstacle?

After form five, I simply chose a route for myself which is to form six. That is the only offer my dad could give me. I can’t go to college unless I can get loan. I can’t go to private university out of Penang, unaffordable on living cost.  PTPTN wasn’t widely offered on private colleges.

Life in form six wasn’t easy for me. I gave myself too much of hope and aim. Followed by the stress I am undergoing is not producing any result. I didn’t do well in form six. I was in a great depression that whole year. Feeling so low that I couldn’t strike anything in life. At that time, studying is almost everything in my life.

Friends around keep telling me, without a good result you can still soar your wings and succeed even higher than those who did well in studies if you can perform yourself on a correct path. At that time, I was too pressured with the performance of myself and desperate for something anew.

After form six, I went look on newspaper jobstreet to look for a job. I’ve got 7 months of break before I enter university. Desperately, I need a job. Without a job, having to taste life without anything to do for 7 months can kill me. Sit down in front of my computer, I start filling up the resume form from jobstreet and apply whatever job that probably they will take me in.

When I get phone calls, it means chances for me to perform. I must not fail them to see the potential inside me. It was not easy at all. I had to go to places I never been to around my state for interviews. The most difficult part is that, I have to tell lies in order to be hired. I cheated them that I’m not going to further my studies because my result is too bad for university entry. All I want is a well paid office hour job.

After all the interviews, asking me to wait phone calls I still haven’t get a job. That really pushes me down. Last try, I went to shopping mall walk all the shops and place my name for a job vacancy. The very next day, I get another interview from jobstreet ad and get the job.

That working experience I have, showed me working life without a degree can soar up higher than the people who get a degree. I lost my dream of studying hard since that. Even now, I’m don’t know why I am in university studying Electronics Engineering. All because my parents want me to be a graduate.

Love is not easy

Choosing a right man in life?

Don’t choose? Just take what comes in first?

I don’t know either. All this is too complicated to think about.

Sometimes, I just can’t stop myself from saying “break this” or “end this” to someone I would call it potential bf.  He would think I’m doing this out of fun to torture him. The truth is always not know.

 ”Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”

Men and women are different and we shall accept the differences.

Before a relationship can start, the love tank will go full. The heart will blossom. Life is full of hope. The whole world seems to be just as colorful as it can be.  Everything between two of us will be alive. Nothing seems wrong. Your heart is sure to be with him.

If your heart is not fully on your potential man, part of it was open for other man to come in, the potential man that’s with you don’t bother to confess his love for u at times being apart, don’t bother to keep us close with any communication method, turn you down when u finally can keep him close through online chatting, turn you down when sharing with him all the things u want him to know all the while, turn you down on interest that you just found in yourself, would u go on or let him go?

When I found comfort in him, is the when he found discomfort in me.

I forgot the love we once share, after days of no close connection with him through phone or internet, i felt much happier with myself and sad that I’m drifting away from him slowly.

Deep inside, I love him like my family. But, with no close connection when being apart from him made me feel like losing him forever. I’m confused, suffocated and dried.

All I want to keep in a relationship is all he forced himself to do.

I can’t dump him, because I love him.

complicated. I dunno. please help advice.

Studying hard is Too Stupid

There are times when the hatred towards someone is so high that you can’t erase it at all. You feel like killing that someone and let her die far away from me.

Life down to Earth is gifted with many different type of emotions. At a moment you can feel loved like you are in heaven, as if your life has blossom with everything in the world could offer. The next moment, you are struggling to hell of all the hatred, anger, evil of you and fakeness.

This are all the emotions that made u go around like a mad dog. Many words will comes out from that someone you hated the most to you. This and that she didn’t like, and many don’ts that she said you’ve got to do. And of course I don’t give it a damn.

Let me pour out more of what’s stuck-ed inside my mind and heart that made me dislike this type of people so much.

Studying everyday, 60% of your time in a day is a stupidest way to a living. SERIOUS!!!!! I am looking into this matter everyday. It’s the most stupid way of living if I’ll never ever lead a life like this. What I mean here is, studying what’s for you in the syllabus for the sake of exam. Seriously, I look down on people like this to the max. In the end, if you can’t even get a 3.9 cgpa, then get yourself killed and start a new life. I know this is not what everyone will think like I do. But I see the many reasons why a person shouldn’t lead a life such a way.

First, all your life will be WASTED on a chair and table, reading the same thing over and over again, memorizing the fact to prepare for exam and right after the exam, what you are memorizing is not there in ur brain anymore. You used up all your life time to study, and all u gain through your life is just studying skill. And I’m more than sure this way, you wouldn’t be able to excel in many area of life and wouldn’t be able to get what you want out of life unless all you want is just a straight As in your result slip. This is so stupid. I disrespect people like this!

Secondly, your brain is just activated on the same thing throughout. All your brain, body system know for years is studying and get good result. Study wouldn’t lead you to much great life k believe me. You can get a real good result in your cgpa, but u can also not know how to apply what u studied. And so in the end u learn how to apply, that doesn’t mean you can get promoted to managerial level because you don’t have any leadership skill or communication skill(for engineering students).

There is an exception, if you love to study so much, then lecturer or school teacher is your career. And I’m very sure, there is no becoming millionaire life for u by then. Congratulate to those who spend their life so much studying and achieve great success in result because of exam.

Life has so much to offer. So many things we could learn out there. It’s not always back to what we had paid to the university and it’s a must to put all ur time on study just to see some return. No. University life is more than studying. I learn miles more away than those who excel in their academic. I hate study nerd because my room-mate is a study nerd and we can’t live together as a conclusion.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!